What You Really Need To Be Committing To

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Good morning!

It’s that time again! Here’s this week’s Free Fitness post!

This post is for the binge eater, bulimic, or anyone who has been stuck in the same cycle for far too long.

If you haven’t noticed already by almost every other Free Fitness post so far, the single most important thing to address when trying to lose weight or get healthy is not food, not exercise, but YOUR MIND.

This study shows only twenty percent of overweight individuals actually lose weight and keep it off. Why do you think that is? I know! Haha! I know because I rode that blasted rollercoaster for twenty years! Yeesh.

The success rate is so low because fixing your head is MUCH harder than trying a diet or workout program. You can’t Google it. No one’s selling it. Most of the time you aren’t even sure what the problem is let alone how to fix it.

So what do you do? You commit to one thing, fixing your head.

The reason is that once you have fixed any disordered thinking and/or chemical imbalances, all of the other things will follow. You will be able to stop eating when you are full. You will be able to quickly move on when you don’t. You will engage in the right kind of exercise for you. The shame that has shrouded you for years will fade until it’s no longer there. And best of all, you will have great advice to give someone else who is struggling with eating and their weight like you once had.

How do you go about fixing your head? To start, you get a good doctor and a good therapist. Look, you and I both know how long the vicious cycle has been going on. It’s time to face the fact that your brain is just as worthy of receiving medical help as every other part of your body. You don’t waste any time going to the doctor when you have the flu or a broken arm because if you didn’t get medical attention, the problem would only get worse. How much worse has your problem gotten? Go to the doctor. Talk to them about your issue of overeating, how long it’s been going on, everything. Ask them if they know a good therapist who specializes in eating disorders.


You know this is a Christian blog so you won’t be surprised at this.

for, “Who has known the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him?” But we have the mind of Christ.¬† 1 Corinthians 2:16

For me, all of the things above came when I finally understood what is important here.

For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain.  Philippians 1:21

Do you understand this verse? To live is Christ. Why? Because when we understand the depth of what was done for us on the cross that day, we are changed. We become slaves. Slaves to Christ.

What does being a slave have to do with binge eating?

I am telling you all, there is no greater peace, no greater joy than to be the slave of Christ. It is truly a peace that surpasses all understanding. I quote Philippians 4:7 because I am aware that many of you reading can’t imagine how this would be.

I think many of us who would call ourselves Christians have gone through life hearing that God is the answer and that we need to cast our cares on Him, and that we can do anything through Christ who gives us strength. How is that working out? Be honest.

Everyone is looking for the secret. Well, here it is.

Get on your knees and ask God to make you into a pleasing disciple.

Open your Bible, ask God to give you wisdom, and knowledge, and understanding.

No matter what, keep seeking the Lord. Through testing, and trials, and tribulation.

Then the peace will come and you will realize that you are a new creation! Your life will be Christ and to die will be gain.

Today I urge you to just stop with the temporary fixes. They are only taking away time that can be devoted to what  I am discussing today. Seek the Lord.

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.¬† Matthew 7:7-8

Today, commit to seeking the Lord.



Free Fitness: The Faulty Switch


Untitled (12)Good morning!

Here we are again on another Thursday. Time for the next installment in my Free Fitness series!

I love listening to the Bert Show on Q100 in the mornings when I take Ryan to school. I have listened to it since I was seventeen, so now at thirty-five, I feel like I know these people. Yesterday, Cassie was venting about how frustrated she was when it came to working out and eating healthy. She was exhausted, angry, and depressed because she couldn’t understand why working out and eating the right amount didn’t come naturally to her like it did to everyone around her. The co-hosts on the show told her that working out doesn’t come easy to anyone and that everyone has a hard time with it. This is true. But they did not understand her peril of overeating. Cassie compared her issue to breathing saying it comes easily and without effort to everyone else but she had to work really hard at it and constantly think about it because it didn’t come naturally to her. The co-hosts didn’t understand this analogy but I do.

First, Cassie isn’t the only one. There are MANY who have this same issue. It’s the same issue as the person who can have one drink and put the bottle away and the person who is an alcoholic. It’s a genetic predisposition. Like the alcoholic has a faulty switch when it comes to alcohol, the overeater has a faulty switch when it comes to food. But where the alcoholic can refrain from purchasing alcohol and going to bars, the overeater has to eat to live!

So what is the overeater to do? Get help.

Just like the alcoholic cannot get sober on there own, the overeater can’t do it alone either. Sadly, many don’t because we as a society do not look at overeating as being as bad as the alcoholism. We even laugh at gluttony when we would never laugh at alcoholism!

So just as an alcoholic needs to take steps to sobriety, the overeater with the faulty switch needs to take steps to change their approach to food.

Step #1: Accept Reality

I don’t know why people say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. The actual definition is “the state being seriously mentally ill: madness.” Just a fun fact for the day. Anyway, you’re not insane. You are aware that there is an issue. If you were insane, you wouldn’t even know or care. But just like the first of the alcoholic’s twelve steps is accepting the things they cannot change, you have to accept the things that you cannot change as well to finally stop the never-ending cycle of binging.

Step #2: Get Help

This seems like an easy step right? It’s not! Most people don’t do it! Why? Because it’s just food. Eating is a natural thing. I can get this under control. I just have to find the right diet or program. I just have to suck it up and do it.

Not when you have a faulty switch. Not when you have a genetic predisposition.

I could list the reasons why you need to get help but you know them already. I know them because I lived them for seventeen years thinking the thoughts that I just told you above. You are gorging yourself until it hurts. You are eating alone so that no one sees how you eat. If you are purging, you are destroying your esophagus and the acid reflux is almost unbearable. If you are purging with exercise, you are spending hours “fixing your mistakes”, hours that could be spent with your loved ones or doing something constructive. If you aren’t purging, you are living in depression and shame like Cassie and all of us who have been through this or are going through the same thing. You are not alone.

Thankfully, help can be found in many places here. I sought counseling which my insurance covered. I had to see a few before I found the right one so keep that in mind when taking this route. There is online therapy where that you don’t even have to leave your house! I really liked the one on one meetings in person though. There is also a group called Overeaters Anonymous. I haven’t been to these but I know it’s totally free and they have meetings all over the place. You can check out their website at oa.org.¬†

Thank God for Google! There is lots of help to be found. Find it and get it.

Step #3: Commit to the Work

If you are struggling with this, you no doubt follow a bunch of fitness gurus, groups, and pages online. We see all the time that we need to commit! To work for what we want! But take it from someone who has been there and knows this road all too well. It’s not about the food. It’s not about the workouts. And if you are like me, you will probably find it beneficial to do away with those things while you are in the healing phase.

You must get your mind right or the cycle will not end.

I hope you are well but if you aren’t, you aren’t alone. Please feel free to let me know if you need someone to pray for your journey. I promise I will!


Other posts in the Free Fitness Series:

Fitness Hacks: Free Fitness

Free Fitness: Why You Must Rest 

Free Fitness: Cookies For Lunch 

Structured Eating: The Fail-Safe